Goal seeking is an inherent part of our human makeup. Though there is always something worth looking forward to, often times most of us will never hit the mark. Comfort, fear and procrastination are all clear signs that we have accepted our fate and do not want to risk the pitfalls that may result from unsuccessful efforts.
Just to get a little clarity on the subject… Tell me, who has survived childhood without getting a scrape, bruise, a chipped tooth or even those famous chicken pox marks? Pitfalls and failures are inevitable, but have they stopped you thus far?
Our lives are continuous examples of overcoming difficulties that have led to successes, regardless of how small or how large. It’s that hesitant mentality that creeps in as time passes which hinders our progress in the long run.
In actuality, as we age and as time passes, we become more cautious and begin to fear taking the chances that our younger selves would have dived into without a second thought. Hence, the bruise on your left arm or the skid mark on your upper thigh.
I would love to say that it is some kind of brainwash that has been implanted in our minds, which I often do. However, the fact remains that a small minority of the people on our planet grow up to become leaders and entrepreneurs. So, ask yourself the burning question… What makes any of those people within that minority any better than you? Why do they shine and you don’t? A relevant question no doubt.
I’m no expert, but it seems that success requires removing those psychological barriers that have seated themselves in our minds and just will not leave. Like the relative that asks for a temporary place to stay and two years later they’re still in your guest room.
Removing the Fear
Webster’s defines fear as: “ FEAR. 1 a : an unpleasant often strong emotion caused by anticipation or awareness of danger.“
So, this fear that most of us suffer from is defined as an emotional state. When contemplating something that will benefit our lives… why do we become emotionally afraid? This fear only determines the outcome because it causes us to do nothing and remain comfortable in whatever displeasing situation we are in. Let’s face it… If someone wants to make a life change, then obviously there is a certain level of discontent with their current situation.
Two common results of fear are procrastination and perfection. Ask yourself why you procrastinate, and better yet ask yourself how fear and perfection work together. Well, considering that I occasionally suffer from both… the answers are clear to me. People procrastinate about important things because they are afraid of an undesirable outcome. On the opposite end of the spectrum, the perfectionist fears his work is never good enough. The result is that often times the perfectionist doesn’t complete the project… always making another tweak… and then another, and so on.
Unfortunately, the easiest way to get past your fear of failure is to make multiple attempts at being successful. You probably will fail here and there, but that’s a good thing because you are learning your trade and overcoming your fear at the same time. It’s a win win situation.
The end result is that you will eventually overcome this emotion called fear, just as you overcome most other emotions… and then the doorway opens up for success!
The first stage in boosting your success rate is positive thinking. We often hear, “If you think you can do it, you will”. Most of the time the person who stops you from reaching your goals is you. People do not typically set goals that are beyond their capabilities in the first place, so your goals can be obtained.
Removing those pessimistic thoughts and replacing them with optimism is the first step at getting things done. Try to make sure your cup is always half full and not the other way around.
Simple problems tend to have simple solutions. After understanding that fear, procrastination, pessimism and most other negative traits all stem from emotions and regressive mentalities, the best solution is to go against these traits. You have to force yourself to be positive and take action.
There are so many catch phrases floating around, which all mean, “Take Initiative”, “Work Hard”, “Do What Has to Be Done”. It’s all the same… Put your fears behind you and move toward becoming successful in whatever it is that you really want to do.
The worst that can happen is you might just succeed!